One of the things I love about the romance genre is the happily ever after at the end of a book. In books, movies and television, I like my happy endings. It’s ENTERTAINMENT. Not reality. In Real Life, we are all aware that some people may work for us, and some definitely will NOT work for us.
There’s no “Scent signature” like in werewolf books.
Or fated matings as in Vampire books.
And certainly no genetic manipulations to create couples as in Christine Feehan’s “Game” series.
Finding Mr. Right isn’t a destination, in my opinion. It’s a journey.
Without Mr. Wrong, I wouldn’t have met the Redneck.
Without Mr. Right Now, I wouldn’t have given the Redneck the time of day.
Without all of my vast errors in judgment, humiliating mistakes and brick walls, I would not have found the man beneath the concrete dust.
When I write, I don’t pretend my characters are “fated”. I do contend that it’s the whole person who falls in love, not just their pink parts. Conflict is a necessary part of the human experience and it makes those harmonious times so much more wonderful.
I bemoan that the Redneck works out of town five days a week, but I MISS him. I miss him so much that when he comes home…….Okay Crystal, I’ll stop now.
It’s a struggle to do our life the way we do. But it’s the struggle that strengthens us, brings us closer, makes us more tolerant.
This week, I’ll be heading in for surgery. It’s not a crisis, but it hasn’t been an easy time. And I was surprised to find the Redneck was freaking out about this thing I thought was “no big deal’. It reminds me that he really does love me and it’s not for my questionable housekeeping skills or my UNquestionable bedroom skills. He’d MISS me.
I love the Redneck. He’s a hard working, often ranting, egotistical, sweet poet who will always surprise me with his contradictions and amaze me with his intelligence. But I couldn’t have had all that without the many mistakes-big and small-that preceded him. His timing was perfect and he truly is my Mr. Right.
Do I think there is one right man for one woman? Not really. But I do believe that there are those who are better together than they are apart.
And it’s the reason I write romance. I believe in the journey to finding that person that will enhance life. I believe in that connection that transcends fear, resentment, anger and distrust. It’s there. And romance is all about the road to find it.
August 10th, 2008 at 6:06 pm
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August 10th, 2008 at 9:43 pm
I have to agree with you. The caveman and I were even talking about this last weekend, the subject of soulmates. Yeah, we ain’t quite that good for each other, BUT we work well together, and that counts for a lot anymore.
August 11th, 2008 at 1:07 am
I know. Sometimes I marvel at how close I came to NOT being married to the Redneck. It’s scary, really.