You know, I have my issues. We all do.

There are days I bemoan the fact that I’m a single mom, and I’ll probably never date again.

I can get stressed out when I think that I have yet to sell to New York, yet I know a handful of people who sold on the first try.

Then there were days (I say were, because I think we’ve crossed that bridge) when I was convinced my toddler was the only child who would never get potty trained, and I’d have to walk her down the aisle with her in diapers.

I could dwell on the fact that my friendship with my bestfriend isn’t what it used to be.

There’s just so much I could obsess over. But I don’t let myself dwell on when I’ll sell to New York, or potty training, or the friend thing. Why? Because these are things I can control. I can choose to be positive and work to make things better. I have control over these things.

It’s all about perspective. How big are our ‘problems’ really? Because surely… they could be worse.

Take a moment and appreciate what you have and your friends. Because that’s something you can control. You can’t control some guy who’s going to go off the deep end and randomly shoot and kill 32+ people at a University. My heart and prayers go out to the victims and family.

10 Responses to “It’s all about perspective”

1. Lillian Feisty Says:
   April 17th, 2007 at 5:11 pm

   You’re so right, Shelli. It’s so easy to lose perspective when we obsess over the little things. Great post!

2. R.G. ALEXANDER Says:
   April 17th, 2007 at 5:22 pm

   Wonderful post…and so true. I came to a similiar conclusion last night-when it seemed the world was full of bad news and everything was going wrong. This morning before I got out of bed I thanked the Universe for all of my many blessings…and I decided that today was going to be better. I may not be able to control the world, but I can definitely control how I see it, and how I react.

3. Loribelle Hunt Says:
   April 17th, 2007 at 5:55 pm

   Well said, Shelli.

4. Diane Craver Says:
   April 18th, 2007 at 1:13 am

   Exactly, Shelli - what seemed important before the shooting no longer has the same relevance.

5. Eva Gale Says:
   April 18th, 2007 at 2:58 am

   What a great post. So true.

6. Karen Erickson Says:
   April 18th, 2007 at 4:32 am

   Bravo Shelli, it’s so true. It’s definitely all about perspective…and we need to appreciate the little things in life.

7. Lyric Says:
   April 18th, 2007 at 9:46 pm

   Great post Shelli. I totally agree. Appreciate every aspect of your life…because it could be gone in a second.

8. Emma Says:
   April 18th, 2007 at 10:53 pm

   So very true Shell. So very true.

9. Isabella Snow Says:
   April 19th, 2007 at 10:44 am

   Obsessions are often a form of procrastination. We spend so much time dwelling on something we can’t change, instead of moving on to something new.

   Something better, usually.

   My two cents, anyway.

   Nice post, Shelli.

10. Samantha Lucas Says:
    April 19th, 2007 at 6:03 pm

    I’m feeling much the same way this week. As I talk with my friends who where there, I can tell you the emotional scars run deep. Being on campus the other day, you could literally feel the sadness and shock hang in the air, it was a very surreal thing.

    I’m so proud of my community though as it comes together in love and support as opposed to anger. I hope time doesn’t change that.

    Thanks for this post Shelli. I’d love to write something eloquent about all this, but I just haven’t been able to yet.